Say you are married with but now you found your true love, your soulmate, if you are a husband will you leave your wife, and if your a wife will you leave your husband?
Please expalain your answer?
Will you still stay with your husband/wife after you found out that someone else is actualy the one that you trully love and the one that is actualy is your soulmate?….Will you leave your life miserable and also stop your partner from looking for his/her soulmate? If you trully beliave that someone else is your trully love, will you just stay with your wife and live a lie. Which means you wont get get your true love and your wife will also wont get a true love?
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February 26th, 2011 at 9:17 pm
No…that would be just wrong…
February 26th, 2011 at 10:04 pm
please go back to bed
February 26th, 2011 at 10:13 pm
hypothetically? or advice?
i really don’t know what i’d do in that situation. the kids change things some what.
February 26th, 2011 at 10:37 pm
I think that once u marry THAT person is said to be your soulmate. If your marriage is bad then go get counceling. But if you absolutely cannot live without this person – get a legal seperation or a divorce FIRST! If you are truly not happy then yes get out of the marriage. We all deserve to be happy.
February 26th, 2011 at 11:16 pm
Grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence don’t it?
February 26th, 2011 at 11:27 pm
my soulmate is the mother of my children –
why look for green balogna when you have prime rib at home?
with your premise – you made a misteak –
I did not!
February 26th, 2011 at 11:30 pm
no i would not because a commitment is a commitment and my soulmate may not really be my soulmate after all
February 26th, 2011 at 11:34 pm
Shoulda looked longer and harder before marriage to begin with and especially had kids. The NEW “soulmate” could be an infatuation too. It takes a while to build a good, long, strong lasting relationship with anyone. You can’t tell if someone is your “soulmate” in a short time. Looks can be deceiving. What’s on the inside AFTER you get to know them is the REAL them. MOST people put their best foot forward in any new relationship.
I wouldn’t.
I wonder what would happen if they made the marriage vows into a “LAW” of some sort. If you violate them you go to prison or something. Maybe then peole wouldn’t take them so lightly.
February 26th, 2011 at 11:49 pm
i wil never leave because i love my hubby and kids and my kids don’t deserve to be put threw that because of my heart i just deal with it my hubby is not my soul mate and i will always love my soul mate but havent seen him for a while and that truly helps but iwe both no we are sole mates but we are both better of this wasy but my hubby is a great man too and is also my best friend and he knows how it is he loves me i love him but arent soul mates but i would never trade my life for what it would be with my soul mate this guy was my soul mate way before i meant my hubby but we dated and it was great but are family life kept us apart but he will be a friend and a soul mate til the day i die
February 27th, 2011 at 12:23 am
I have found my soulmate and i never intend on leaving him for anyone because there is no one on this earth that is better then my husband….To Love Honor and Cherish Till Death Do Us Part, and then i would never be with another because there is only one person that i will ever love and that is my husband …
February 27th, 2011 at 12:30 am
you have probably just found lust………….stay with your wife and kids……….you will regret it if you don’t
February 27th, 2011 at 1:25 am
NO NO NO! I would run away from them as fast as I could. I would not throw away the love of my husband and ruin the lives of my children for anyone.
February 27th, 2011 at 2:01 am
No for two reasons. The kids and the covenant obligation you have with your legal wife. Like the song goes, it is sad when you belong to someone else when the right one comes along. But what to do you just have to bite the bullet and be the father you were meant to be as assigned by heaven even though it was not by the “chosen one”-soul mate.
February 27th, 2011 at 2:07 am
I left my 1st husband after only 4 months! There were kids involved but they weren’t his,I had them before I met him.I had married him on the rebound after my relationship with my kids father broke down. It was obvious to me within a week of the wedding that I had messed up big time! The other party was a colleague who became a shoulder to cry on and the rest is history. Yes,it was a sh*tty thing to do and I certainly didn’t take it lightly. My husband was understandably furious when I told him and made the divorce very difficult. However,9 years later I am still with the other guy.He is the love of my life and we have two children together! It was a mess but it was worth it!
February 27th, 2011 at 2:47 am
Well when I met my “the one” he was married and has 2 kids. first we were just fooling around then we fell in love. we couldnt fight it anymore, we hated being apart and my gosh he has never loved anyone like me before and he makes that very clear. well we’ve been together now for awhile and we are happier then ever. He asked me to marry him and of course I said yes, I could not go through life without him by my side and same for him. If your heart isnt there anymore and maybe it wasnt for awhile then it is only fair to her and the kids that you leave. Just be careful that she doesnt start trouble for you, such as calling ur new girlfriends house 50 times a day, that could make her fall away from you and you dont want that, especially if she is the one you were meant to be with!
February 27th, 2011 at 3:13 am
No,why would want to do that. Why put your kids through that. There must have been a reason why you married that person in the first place.
February 27th, 2011 at 4:08 am
no, that is just stupid. first of all, since i am married now, i truly believe that i found my soul mate. that is why i married her. i would never leave my wife and 2 children.
February 27th, 2011 at 4:16 am
not at all…you dont have a choice now…you have bought children into this world, they are for life and no parent has the right to destroy their world, just because they “stuffed up” yr “new soul mate” is just an infatuation/mental/lust thingy, wouldnt last longer than the marriage yr in now, then who knows, you may look outward again? you have the ultimate now…stick with yr family, they are the ones who really count, they are the ones who love you unconditionally…they are your soul mates…good luck
February 27th, 2011 at 5:12 am
Yes, I did find her one day. I never thought anyone could be so perfect for me. But no, I wouldn’t leave my wife and no I couldn’t leave my children. We did not have an affair, but it did come close.The other women stopped that from happening. Her strength just made me appreciate her more. I think about her now & then.
February 27th, 2011 at 5:38 am
No not at all I chose my husband so NO i would not leave him at all…. If he died however and i was free to marry him again and then i found my soulmate then yes and only then would i pursue him and that only would be if he was available and not married and if He was Gods will for my life. However I feel that i am married to my soulmate right now so why would i want to leave him anyways?
February 27th, 2011 at 5:55 am
I’m curious on how do you know that this person is your soul mate? I have always wanted to know how people know this. And if in fact that you feel this way about someone else then yes I think you should be honest to yourself and your wife and end this pretend marriage that you are now in. And I agree that she could have a chance at finding someone that really loves her. I’m sure she can tell if your heart isn’t in it anymore. You will not be doing your kids any favors if you are not truly happy at home. I’ve said this a million times, Kids see a lot more than people think they do.
February 27th, 2011 at 6:49 am
Hit the road jack!! Don’t come back no one woman or man deserves to de stuck in a marriage where they are not the others soul mate!
February 27th, 2011 at 7:38 am
How as a married person could you be intimate enough in conversation and other things to know another was your soul mate? This would be wrong to begin with.
I personally don’t believe in soulmates, just mates that take care of your soul.
February 27th, 2011 at 7:38 am
if you’ve found someone who makes your whole life seem so much better, gives you a joy you never thought was possible, and who gives you love and safety and happiness, you should try to be with this person. it’s always harder to be with them if you’re already married, but you have to chose. nothing is set in stone in this life, nothing is unchangeable.
personally, i don’t think anyone should feel morally or otherwise obliged to stay in a situation where they will be unhappy and always regretting ‘the one that got away’. there are ways in today’s society to adapt around a person leaving their family.
isn’t it more unfair to remain in an unloving relationship? your children will see the lack of love between you two, and grow up emotionally stunted. it’s so important for kids to see their parents in love, and if that has to be with other partners then it’s still better than growing up with 2 people who just live together because a marriage certificate bound them to. good luck with your decisions.
April 8th, 2011 at 3:18 pm
I walked away from my soulmate to keep my children happy. I should have said yes and left. Been miserable since.
May 2nd, 2011 at 2:52 pm
I found my soulmate and we dated. She put off marriage between us and i got angry and left. Eventually i married someone else and been married for 17years. I also have two daughters whom i love very much. Recently, my soulmate has reentered my life and now i realize my mistake. I should have waited for her. I love her…she loves me and we both have told each other that. Shes married now and also has kids. We wat desperately to be together but we dont know what to do.
May 7th, 2011 at 8:25 am
I read these messages and see myself in all of them. If I stay in my marriage then it teaches my kids commitment and that marriage is forever. If I leave they get to see true love. Love is so crazy and makes you feel dumb and make dumb decisions. I really don’t care about anything or anyone but my girlfriend and that scares me more than anything. My wife is great and has and would never do anything wrong. She loves me very much. It breaks my heart to think of my wife by herself trying to raise my children just because I was selfish and wanted to be with another person who I have found to be my real soulmate. I have not had any sexual relations with my girlfriend just missing and hugging nothing more. Everytime I am with her I am happy and always having the best time. Not only that on the days that I see her my company makes serious money and when I don’t see her my company doesn’t make anything. I feel like the universe or God something is telling me to leave my family and be with her. I don’t want to tell my wife that I am leaving her for another woman. However I feel like I need to go I just don’t know how.
May 9th, 2011 at 11:10 pm
I’m in a somewhat similar pickle. I’ve always felt like ‘my perfect match’, soulmate, or whatever you call it existed somewhere out there but I wasn’t sure if I’d ever find her.
I’ve never been married, but might as well have been… I’ve been in an 8 year relationship. I’ve lived with the woman for about 5-6 of the 8 years. She has wanted to get married but I really couldn’t bring myself to it. I knew from day 1 that she was not my soul mate and while I was somewhat attracted to her in the beginning I was not extremely so. Anyway I figured that we could grow in love together over time. etc (which we somewhat did). She is a very good woman but I was never completely fulfilled and there are some things that just downright agravate me to no end. Thankfully I don’t have any kids to complicate things.
I never looked or ventured outside the relationship, never had any intention to do so, but about 9 or 10 months ago I met a woman who began participating in some of the weekly group activities that I do. I did not think anything of her at first but she became a regular attendee at some of our group activities. I found out early on that she is married but found it strange that she always showed up alone and never spoke of her husband (at some point later she told me that she is in a bad marriage and about all it’s problems).
After a few weeks it seemed like she began to show me attention at our group outings but I really wasn’t sure if it was just me because she has a very friendly and welcoming personality with everybody she comes in contact with. Anyway, the attention continued at our weekly outings and I kind of ignored it at first knowing that she is married and I am in a relationship. But eventually I started to show her some back. We became friends and messaged each other via phone/ computer a few times and then hung out a couple of times aside from our regular group outings. That’s when I sensed (or rather knew) that something was developing between us. We began communicating on a more regular basis but still weren’t hanging out or spending any time together outside of the weekly group outings. Over the course of about 3 or 4 months that began to change however. We started spending time together here and there and I fell for her hook, line, & sinker. She did for me also. At some point we kissed and embraced but we still didn’t “cross THE line” (didn’t even really talk about it). But the tension was definitely there and we both wanted to. I resisted at first but eventually after another month or two we caved, crossed that line and have done so a number of times since. Now, we text & talk on the phone for at least a few hours every day almost like clockwork and also see each other at some point several times a week, nearly every day in fact.
I am madly in love with this woman and I’m pretty sure the feeling is mutual with her. We’re almost inseparable. If there is such a thing as a soul mate then she is mine. But she’s still married (however unhappy). And I’m not fully out of my current ‘relationship’ either. I want her in my life badly and I don’t know what to do.
May 17th, 2011 at 9:27 am
Yes. Do the right thing for everyone. I met my soulmate exactly a year into a horrid marriage. With my wife 4 months pregnant I did not follow my heart and still regret it every day. My marriage since has n
Been one day after the next of “making do” for the children. I know many of you are self righteous and can’t see past the nose on your face but if I had to live my life over i would have left right then. It would have been bad but at least I would have known love and not duty.
May 24th, 2011 at 9:14 am
Funny. I googled “soulmate after being married”, because I was curious how many others are out there like me. Sorry, but I have to agree with the few and dissagree with the masses. Marriage is sacred, yes, but also not for everyone. Some make it, becuase they are soulmates, lovers, best friends, and have connections in from spirit to sexuality. You need most if not all, or you are in trouble. Many marry becuase they think they are in love, or the comfort of knowing this person can provide, and will be there, but those reasons alone can’t make it work forever, and fade quickly when a person finds realizes who they are and what they need in life to be happy. I know…I am there. Everyday I give myself a reason to not break the news yet, but I can say beyond a doubt I met Mrs. Right. Mrs. Perfect for me. I’m in love. The feelings are so much different, and the reaction to her company, seeing her, talking to her, sharing the simplest of moments with her,even to the smallest kiss goodbye or hello. Is it fare? Is life perfect? To me, no, because if it was I would have met her long ago. But I also can’t complain, because I did in fact meet her, and she has openned my eyes to a whole new feeling. She’s married too, and we have a long road ahead, but the finish line seems so perfect, that spending the next 50 years wondering would be too painful. We did not mean for this to happen. This was not planned. We met, fell head over heals, became friends, tested the waters, and finally took a leap of fatih and haven’t looked back. Almost three years later, the feelings are stronger than ever, and the good times and love keeps growing. So all that to say……yes, do what you must. There are millions of you everyday going through the same ordeal. Your kids will appreciate a happy mother and father separate much more than an unhappy mother and father together. And they can see it. They are not blind. If you can, remain friends once the dust has settled. I can only wish you luck. After all, if you are in love, do what is best for you. Life is too short to look back and wonder “what if”…..
May 29th, 2011 at 5:00 pm
So , I have been involved with a wonderful woman
For the past 4 years. Significantly older than her
I separated from my partner of 10 years but until now have
Never wished to have more children ( 3 amazing
Adult sons to my first wife )
More Kids has always been an issue , to the extent that
She has become engaged and married all during
Our ongoing relationship.
I have now decided that having a new family
Would be very fulfilling within the framework if what
Is a truly deep and loving relationship but
Obviously brings up a multitude if issues
We are truly “soulmates ” .. This us not just a short
Duration affair – 4 years is a long time to get to
Know someone .. So what to do?
Try and make a real open relationship and devastate
Hubbuby of 2 years and weather the wrath of
Family and friends
Continue status quo .. She really wants to start
A family .. Either with her husband or possibly with me
End it and live in regret
August 5th, 2011 at 1:21 am
“you have the ultimate now…stick with yr family, they are the ones who really count, they are the ones who love you unconditionally…” …… I don’t agree!!! I do love this “my friend” married man, but because he is married, what I can do is just love him unconditionally, I can’t be with him and it really hurts, I know he wants to sleep with me, but we can’t, I just support him to make his dream come true, be a great friend, I’ll do anything for him without expecting anything back. I love him so much, so don’t want to sneak around and let him do wrong thing, so I have decided to love him unconditionally. it hurts, we can’t kill feeling, but we can do right thing.
August 16th, 2011 at 7:50 pm
You all don`t know what you are talking about. soulmates can`t resist each other even if you try. It is something stronger than you. We are humans after all. And why would i stay in a miserable marriage if i find my soulmate ? the most important is to be happy and it is always better for your children to see you happy than seeing you miserable with each other and that will affect them.Life is too short, always take time to make the good choice before getting married. I am not crazy enough to be obsessed with marriage. This is really the last of my preoccupations. My parents got divorced when i was very young and guess what ? i am very happy for that decision because they did not make for each other, they were not happy with each other and consider how sensitive i am, that would affect me very much to see them fighting all the time and to see them sad all the time. And me i am a very happy person no matter what so the fact that they did get divorce did not affect me in anyway. Always be happy, you`ll live longer and life will be easier for you.